Orgasmic Dirty Talk Page 4
1] Time-Oriented Dirty Talk Pacing
A] Remember What I Did (Past Pacing)
This is a great “re-arouser” when used to remind her of how dirty you two were because her mind will do all the foreplay for you. No foreplay you will ever do can match that of a woman’s own mental foreplay. It can also be a form of teasing, because it isn’t happening now and you left open the possibility of it happening again.
Great to use during foreplay, whispered in her ear in public situations, or when you tease her by randomly press her against a wall while passionately kiss her and then go about your business as if nothing happened (like I’m fond of).
B] What I’m Doing Now (Present Pacing)
It is what you are doing to her, and what she is doing to you. Simply narrating what you are doing as you are doing it in great detail is surprisingly effective for arousing women. Tell her what she is feeling as you are stimulating her (tautology of course, but it actually catalyzes what she is experiencing and increases her responsiveness to your voice and touch).
Examples:
“I love sliding my dick into your hungry pussy…it feels so hot and tight”
“Your soft lips feel so good wrapped around my cock…I’m fucking your wet mouth like I fuck that pretty little wet pussy of yours”
“Your ass looks so hot up in the air for me when I pound your pussy like this”
“Swallow that dick down your throat”
Or narrate the action, with language that’s slightly more classy:
…As you push her down onto the bed…“I love bending you over and parting those wet pink lips”
…As you’re teasing her…”I love licking your entire body”
…As she’s giving you oral…”You love feeling me inside your mouth”
C] What I’m Going to Do (Future Pacing)
This allows her mind to anticipate what it is going to feel like. Sexual anticipation to women is nearly as pleasurable as the future sensations themselves. Future pacing implies leading and taking control, which some women find very stimulating.
You can use this during sex to great effect, but I prefer to use it as a form of mental foreplay before the clothes come off. Use it in text messages, emails, or in public (don’t place her in embarrassing situations though). The anticipation alone is arousing to her, and when you actually do the aforementioned things, they will be that much more powerful. Why? Because she is experiencing the highly-arousing mental fantasy she created coming to life. Try this technique in the dark for even greater effect.
Examples:
“I’m going to slide my dick into your hungry pussy….it’s going to feel so hot and tight”
“I’m going to spread your legs and lick up all your juices until you quiver beneath my tongue”
“Your soft lips will feel so good wrapped around my cock. I’m going to slowly fuck your wet mouth like I fuck that pretty little pussy of yours”
2] Dominance-oriented Dirty Talk
A] Commands
Although dominance pervades all of your dirty talk (it should anyway), it can be conveyed more directly through commands and leading her. Commands are inherently dominant, and allow women the wonderful dark fantasy of submitting to a powerful man.
Two basic commands: Things you perform on her and things she must do to you
Examples:
“Hands and knees. Now take it up the ass like the horny slut you are!”
“Spread your legs and hold them back.”
“On your knees. Suck my cock”
“Finger yourself and lick my balls like a good girl.”
“Look at yourself [in the mirror] bounce on that cock. Listen at how juicy that pussy is!”
Commands are action-oriented. It is mainly the usage of verbs and dominant tonality with a commanding presence. You can even get away with adding softeners like “I would like for you to…” or “I want you to…” or “Would you…” or “I think…” if done with a commanding presence.
If “I want you to suck my dick” gets conveyed to her as “I would really like for you to suck my dick, please, would you please, if it doesn’t offend you.”…no shred of assertion or dominance exists in your body and I recommend you take up strength training and martial arts. You should be doing both of those already, no excuses. Shut up and do’em.
3] Emotion-oriented Dirty Talk
Without this type of dirty talk, your dirty talk can become mechanical and boring if you are just pacing what’s happening.
A] How You Feel
Describe the emotions underlying her/your sexual actions. Make sure you place the focus on how SHE is making you feel. This “tender talk” prevents boring dirty talk and gives her the emotional variety she craves.
Examples:
“Your pussy makes me feel so good baby”
“I love being this close to you”
“I want you. Right now. Get over here.”
B] Pacing Her Inner Cravings
This is the mirror to #1. Now you are describing the emotions SHE is feeling and placing the focus on her sensations. You can even use this to condition certain behaviors in her. You can make her feel the very emotion you are mentioning by TELLING her that that’s what she is feeling. Tell her how/what she is feeling.
Use it to tell her how much she wants to be dirty and how much she craves sex and your cock. And she will. Dirty talk is sex magic.
Examples:
“You love watching that thick cock go in and out of your juicy pussy. That makes you fucking torrid (or hot, horny, etc.)”
“Feels good, doesn’t it? You love it don’t you?”
“You like it when I touch you like this. Deep down you are just a little slut for me aren’t you?”
“You enjoy be told what to do”
“You are a nasty little girl aren’t you?”
Although these are written as questions, say them as commands to her. This not only conveys dominance, but shows her that you know her deepest and darkest desires…she is open to you in every way.
C] Self-esteem Booster
Give her more sexual confidence with this type of dirty talk.
Examples:
“Damn your pussy tastes delicious!”
“I could fuck you for days”
“I love the way you smell”
“Your tight little body is so sexy”
“I love the way your pretty lips feel and how your eyes shine when you suck me”
D] Cursing
A well-placed curse word can add wonders to your phrases because of the emotions they inherently convey. Girls who normally don’t curse outside the bedroom get an extra thrill when they hear you curse.
Examples:
“I’m going to cum inside you” vs “I’m going to fucking cum inside you”
“Your ass is hot bouncing on my dick” vs “Damn your ass is hot bouncing on my dick”
4] Sexual Trance Inducers
I have hinted at sexual trance many times and never explained it fully. I find it hard to explain. The best thing I can liken it is hypnotic trance or what Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi calls “flow state”
It is basically a mind-state women go into and can be induced by many things, but all of them involve her feeling strong emotion. The BDSM “sub-space,” or being spaced out after a huge orgasm, the girl who seems to be in another world as you pound her tight pussy… forms of sexual trance. If you have ever done something (asked her an open-ended question, called her a word she hates, caused her a lot of pain during sex, etc.) and she seemed to “snap-out” of something…she was in a sexual trance.
Dirty talk induces sexual trance via eliciting the strong emotions needed for it to happen.
A] Discover Her Trance Words
These are the words (especially her dirty words) that she uses frequently. If she says “slut hole” instead of “pussy” or “dick” instead of “cock” then those are two of her trance words. When you repeat her words back to her, you pace her ex
perience and perception of the world, letting you tap the subconscious source of her desires and fantasies.
The words you discover are the words she uses when she thinks dirty thoughts, and when she hears you use them, she will feel as though you understand her and using them almost ensures she will eagerly devour your words without any reticence.
B] Affirmations
This is getting her to say YES to your questions. The purpose is two-fold: to make the experience more real for her and to induce a light sexual trance. Her saying “YES” to your commands and questions is a way for her to convince herself that she believes what you say and takes it to be true. It is as if her mind says “I wouldn’t be saying yes, unless I believed it, so I must believe it then.”
Getting her to do double or triple affirmation begins forming a “Yes Ladder” and is even more powerful than single affirmations alone. The repetition is key for sexual trance and triple affirmations are full of repetition.
Context: You fucking her hard and rough OR you teasing her vaginal opening with the head of your penis
Single Affirmation:
You: You are my horny little slut aren’t you?”
Her: *nods*
Double:
You: You are my horny little slut aren’t you?”
Her: *nods*
You: “Tell me, let me hear you say it”
Her: ”I’m you’re horny little slut”
Triple:
You: “You are my horny little slut aren’t you?”
Her: “yessss”
You: “That wasn’t convincing. I want you to tell me that you are my horny little slut like you mean it
Her: ”I’m you’re horny little slut”
You: “Say it like you mean it. Tell me how horny you are for my cock. Tell me you are my horny little slut”
Her: ”I’m so fucking wet. I need your cock inside me…please!”
Note: don’t ask open ended questions until you get really good at talking dirty, they cause her to break her sexual concentration. When you start mastering dirty talk, use open ended questions sparingly and with a definite purpose in mind.
C] Repetition
The act of just repeating words, phrases, or commands make them become even more powerful like each multiple thrust your cock gives her. Repetition causes emphasis and amplification of certain emotions. Realize that women don’t care if you make sense during sex. They only care if you are turning them on and to what degree that occurs. Repeating your words is like thrusting…once is rarely enough to get her off.
Repeating Words Example:
“I love how wet your pussy gets for me. I love running my fingers through your hair. I love the way your pussy squeezes my dick”
“I love” causes her to focus on your adoration for her and her body in this context
If you used “my slut” or “dirty girl” or “bad” her focus and emotional emphasis would be on forbidden and taboo-ness.
Repeating Action:
“Suck it, come on suck it you dirty slut. I want to hear that slut mouth of yours suck it good.”
Repetition to Amplify Her Orgasms:
[Near and during her orgasm]: “That’s it, make that slut pussy cum! Cum harder! Even harder! Cum on my dick like the slut that you are”
D] Desire Dissonance or “Push-Pull”
You reel her in emotionally, and push her away teasingly. It has the same effect of bringing her close to orgasm and then back off repeatedly before you let her cum: huge emotional and pleasure release
Example:
Emotional:
[Whispered in her ear] “I would love to pull your panties off right here in this restaurant and fuck you while everyone was watching us…but I can’t do that…that’s so wrong”
Physical:
[Shove her against a wall and kiss her hard]: “God I can’t wait to slide inside your moist little pussy” as you walk away like nothing happened.
Start kissing her and caressing her, then playfully push her away. Kiss and grope her some more, with a bit more passion and then push her away as if you needed to get work done.
BEYOND THE BASICS
Beyond the Basics can be summed up in a single question: “What do I want my woman (or yourself) to experience?” If you would like to add some creativity to your dirty talk while giving your woman massive pleasure and powerful new experiences, then read on. This section utilizes a more conscious approach to crafting your language/communication to give her what she needs.
When to use the information in this section:
After you notice she is becoming more and more actively receptive to your dirty talk
o I.e. your words arouse her more easily and powerfully.
After mastering the basics
After knowing, seeing, and deeply experiencing (internalizing) the powerful effect your voice has on her pleasure
Interesting Applications of Dirty Talk
The things in this section give you the ability to use dirty talk for specific arousal purposes primarily and allow you to somewhat “shape” her arousal.
1] After-Care/Pillow-Talk Importance
After some wonderfully dirty sex, if you are in a relationship, you want to re-affirm the deep emotional you have with her. It’s a way of conveying that she is still loved by you, and removes any fears she may have of you disrespecting her for responding to such “dirtiness” with enthusiasm. By doing this, you effectively demonstrate that you want her to express the totality of who she is with you. Also, your ability to be discreet is of the utmost importance. She just needs to know you still see the “pure” nice girl side after witnessing her “dirty girl” side. Also, it will solidify and strengthen the sexually immersive state.
Your “tender talk” is essentially you recognizing the flow of sex. Sex has slowed down, the vibe is mellow, and you want your words (if any) to match the mood. If you feel your words won’t add anything of sustenance, then just enjoy the silence and let her talk.
2] Polarize Your Sex Sessions
Polarizing your sex session on purpose allows dirty talk to remain special. You can overuse its power if you get into a serious dirty-talk groove. Have nights were you have plain “vanilla” sex where you talk less, feel more, and fuck her to God. Then contrast those nights with dirty, can’t-tell-anyone-about-this nights where she gets to be your “cum slut with a wet, sloppy fuck hole.” Keeping the types of sex sessions separate plays to the strength of the mind’s ability to focus on one thing at a time.
Sometimes mixing dirty talk with sensual talk can dilute the effects of each rather than synergize them. On the slow and sensual nights you still want to maintain dominance, except it’s more of a “loving dominance.” Creating these temporary polarizations can amplify sensations because you get to fully immerse yourself in one mode/role.
3] Using Dirty Talk to Sustain Her Arousal
You would want to use this when you need to create a break in the rhythmic stimulation you are giving her. Dirty talk at least sustains the mental arousal, which lends itself to her physical arousal as well, creating less of an arousal drop-off. The dirty talk helps keep her excited and closer to orgasm.
The key is to make sure she is deeply immersed into the experience and then lay down some thick dirty talk for the few moments you aren’t stimulating her while you rest, change positions, switch hands, etc.
4] PeriOrgasmic Magic
Remember a few digital pages ago when I said:
“Right before she has an orgasm is when she is most receptive to the dirtiest words. That pre-orgasmic trance is a wonderful place, and dirty talk is steroids for it. That space is useful in many ways. […] Pre/peri-orgasm is your chance to drop the dirtiest bombs you have to make her explode in ecstasy…the dirtier the better for most women.”
Leveraging the strong emotions and sensations here can lead to some things that will blow your mind. The reason why this is in the intermediate section is because I’m assuming that you can A)
give her orgasms consistently during sex 2) you are highly aware of where she is in terms of arousal, and C) This can back-fire and an assertive man can stand to screw it up without losing her respect OR trust.
PeriOrgasmic techniques are a great test to see how much she respects you sexually and how confident and comfortable you are with yourself. A lot of times women will invent pleasurable sensations just so they can remain obedient to your sexual dominance. King mode!
That said, here are the three primary ways I leverage the time surrounding her orgasm:
A] Give her commands to obey
The whole idea of this is to assert your dominance and make her wait by teasing her to demonstrate that you own her orgasms.
Tease her by making her switch positions or locations before she can orgasm
Make her repeat certain things the entire time she is having an orgasm like: